You carried a decision that shaped your life. That experience can leave a quiet ache even after you’ve done the work to move forward. You have sought support, and still sense something is missing.

I offer coaching that focuses on clarity, self-compassion, and practical steps to reclaim identity and joy.

You’ve done the hard work in therapy. Now you want to live a life that honors both your choices and your future. This coaching program helps you re‑author your identity beyond the adoption story, build boundaries that protect your energy, and create rituals that honor the child you released while allowing you to thrive.

Each week focuses on a practical step in the SURF method: Say Goodbye, Understand the story you’ve been living, Reframe limiting beliefs and design boundaries, and Forge forward with rituals, micro‑habits, and a 90‑day plan.

You’ll receive guided worksheets, short audio practices, and a one‑page integration plan to keep visible after the program ends.

Program Features

Ready for a steady, meaningful growth journey to move you from having a hole to wholeness. Seeking deep emotional exploration, and meaningful reframing.

7-weekly 50-75‑minute sessions + one, 90-minute “Integration” final session

Experience focused, steady progress in a held coaching container. Each weekly session guides you from noticing what’s present to choosing new responses, so you leave feeling clearer, more grounded, and able to act from your values. The final 90‑minute Integration session brings everything together into a practical, visible plan you can use long after the program ends.

Two emergency grounding calls (15 minutes each)

When old feelings surface in unexpected ways, use two short, coach‑led grounding calls to come back to your center. These calls are practical, calming, and action‑oriented — designed to help you steady your breath, reframe the immediate moment, and return to work or family life with more clarity and choice.

Unlimited voice‑note support (Mon–Fri)

Send quick voice notes during the week when questions, small wins, or tricky moments arise. You’ll get timely, coaching‑focused responses that help you translate insight into action, keep momentum between sessions, and feel supported without waiting for the next meeting.

Personalized SURF integration plan

Receive a one‑page, personalized plan that maps your new story, your 90‑day priority, and the weekly micro‑habits that sustain it. This plan turns insight into a simple roadmap you can glance at daily — a practical anchor for steady change and ongoing accountability.

A personalized meditations recorded in my voice specific to you

A short, bespoke meditation recorded for you to use when you need calm, clarity, or a values‑centered reset. Hearing a guided practice tailored to your priorities creates a private, soothing ritual that helps you choose how to show up in moments that matter.

Customized reflection exercises

Receive reflection prompts and short exercises crafted for your story and goals — not generic worksheets. These practices help you notice progress, reframe limiting beliefs, and build confidence through small, repeatable actions that feel doable in a busy life.

A closing ritual or written reflection summarizing their growth

End the program with a meaningful ritual or a written reflection that honors what you’ve done and names the next chapter. This closing practice creates a tangible marker of growth, helping you carry forward both the care you gave in the past and the life you are intentionally building now.

Benefits for participants

This program is designed to translate therapy work into practical change. Below are clear, coaching‑focused benefits women who released a child to adoption can expect, with a brief note about how the SURF framework supports each outcome.

Emotional integration and inner steadiness

• Greater emotional clarity. Learn to notice and name recurring feelings without re‑opening raw processing; this reduces the sense of a persistent, undefined gap. How SURF helps: Understand tools and short grounding audios to build a simple habit of noticing and choosing responses.
• Reduced reactivity in daily life. Fewer moments where old pain unexpectedly shapes decisions or interactions. How SURF helps: Noticing practices and micro‑choices create space between trigger and response.

Identity and narrative transformation

• A coherent, values‑aligned personal story. Move from a single defining moment to a fuller identity that includes professional, relational, and mothering roles. How SURF helps: Reframe exercises produce a concise new story you can say aloud and use as a compass.
• Increased self‑recognition and confidence. Clearer language about who you are supports steadier choices and public presence. How SURF helps: Weekly reframes and short practices reinforce new, authentic self‑statements.

Boundaries and relationships

• Practical boundary skills. Concrete scripts and role‑plays make it easier to protect time, energy, and priorities. How SURF helps: Boundary script templates and coached practice reduce hesitation and second‑guessing.
• Healthier relational patterns. More consistent, values‑aligned interactions with partners, family, and colleagues. How SURF helps: Values‑to‑vision work clarifies what you will and will not accept in relationships.

Daily wellbeing and sustainable habits

• A realistic self‑care blueprint. Small, non‑negotiable practices that fit a busy professional life and raise baseline energy. How SURF helps: Energy mapping and micro‑habit design create a weekly plan you can actually keep.
• Simple rituals that honor and move you forward. Life‑giving ways to mark anniversaries or milestones without retraumatizing. How SURF helps: Ritual design worksheet and a short pilot audio help you test what feels right.

Professional and life impact

• Improved focus and productivity. Clearer priorities and fewer emotional interruptions support career and life momentum. How SURF helps: A 90‑day priority and accountability structures translate values into measurable action.
• Stronger leadership presence. Speaking and acting from an integrated identity increases credibility and influence. How SURF helps: Narrative work and boundary practice sharpen how you show up at work.

Meaning, legacy, and forward living

• A sense of honoring the choice while living fully. Create practices that acknowledge the past and intentionally build a joyful present. How SURF helps: Saying Goodbye and designing legacy and rituals help you design ways to honor the child that feel life‑giving rather than burdensome.
• Ongoing, practical next steps. A one‑page integration plan and accountability options keep progress alive after the program ends. How SURF helps: Follow through produces a visible plan and simple accountability routines.

Benefits of Standing in My Truth

Share your story on your terms

You gain the freedom to choose what you say, when you say it, and to whom. That choice brings relief — you no longer feel pressured to explain or justify; instead you offer a version of your life that feels honest, dignified, and aligned with who you are now.

Protect your privacy and set boundaries

Knowing your story lets you decide who needs to know and who doesn’t. That clarity reduces anxiety in conversations, makes it easier to decline probing questions, and preserves emotional energy for the people and places that matter most.

Make space for future contact in a way that honors both journeys

If your child re‑enters your life, you’ll be prepared to welcome them from a grounded place — with rituals, language, and boundaries that respect both your histories. That readiness creates a safer, more compassionate opening for connection that honors both of your paths.

Increase self‑awareness and clarity of values

Rewriting your narrative helps you see which values guided past choices and which values you want to lead now. That clarity makes everyday decisions simpler, strengthens your sense of purpose, and reduces the internal tug‑of‑war between past and present.

Improve emotional regulation and presence

Practical practices tied to your new story — short grounding tools, micro‑rituals, and intention prompts — help you move through triggering moments with steadiness. The result is fewer reactive episodes, more calm in relationships, and a greater ability to stay present in work and life.

Speak up with confidence and act from choice

When your story is clear, your voice follows. You’ll find it easier to assert needs, say no without guilt, and advocate for yourself in professional and personal settings. That confidence opens space for healthier relationships and more authentic leadership.

Feeling shift you can expect: from carrying a private ache to carrying a chosen story — one that honors your past care, protects your present energy, and supports a future you actively design.

Investment

Choosing this program is choosing time, clarity, and steady forward motion. For $4,500 USD you get a held coaching container that turns insight into action: weekly coaching to practice new responses, short audios and worksheets to anchor change, and on‑the‑spot support when old feelings arise. Many clients describe the fee as an investment that pays back in clearer priorities, less reactivity, and a one‑page plan they actually use.

F – Follow Through

With follow through you receive gentle accountability and real steps so your journey to wholeness becomes a part of you.

Meet Sandy

I know what it means to carry a story in silence — and what it takes to rebuild a life from it.

At eighteen, I released my daughter to adoption. With little support and few real options, I did what I believed would give her the best chance. I kept moving — finishing high school, putting myself through college, building a career — all while keeping a part of myself sealed off. On the outside I looked capable and high‑functioning. Inside, there was an ache I didn’t have words for.

Eventually, the weight of what I had tucked away began to surface in ways that didn’t align with who I knew myself to be. That became my turning point. Through therapy, self‑study, and later coaching, I learned boundaries, self‑leadership, and how to choose from clarity instead of old wounds. I learned how to acknowledge my full identity — including the part of me that is a mother.

Today, I coach women who released a child to adoption and now feel a quiet sense of “something missing.” Women who have done the deep therapeutic work and are ready for the next chapter — one defined by steadiness, self‑respect, and choice.

My work is about helping you move from carrying your story alone to living in a way that feels aligned, grounded, and fully yours.